Sometimes there are psychological reasons for an adult child resisting a parent’s new love life.
And, given that boomer divorce rates are on the rise, increasing numbers of parents are likely to experience disapproval from their adult kids when Cupid’s arrows land.
“Children of all ages feel betrayed and abandoned when their parents divorce because their cozy nest is disrupted,” Lieberman says.
Bryan, 23, kept repeating that he could no longer “trust” her. “I thought I was close to my children, but suddenly I felt like I didn’t understand them at all.” Why Grown Kids Don’t Like Your New Partner Throwing a hissy fit is a natural youthful reaction to divorced parents’ dating, says Dr. Lieberman, a psychiatrist in Beverly Hills, Calif., who is on the clinical faculty at the Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior at UCLA.
Both children were so insistent that she put off the wedding for at least a year that she did, reluctantly. Unfortunately, this behavior doesn’t always end after a child is in his 20s.
“But the next time I visited them, Pat was showing off her new emerald-cut sapphire ring.
That thing cost more than a down payment on a house!
And when you can’t reestablish harmony in the family, short-term counseling could be beneficial for everyone.
This came out of the blue from my seven-year-old daughter Isabella – but then, little about our recent family life had been expected.
“This even upsets kids who are already out of the nest.